Like the old childhood tale we all know well from when we were younger- The Tortoise and The Hare gives us a life long lesson that can be used in many facets of life. Patience is a virtue, and being patient, taking things slow in life, often leads us to better places than if we were to rush the journey. I know that thinking this is far more easy than acting on it and actually believing it, but since the start of the New Year, it is something I truly have been reflecting on in my daily life.
Right before christmas I had a very Eat Pray Love moment, feeling confused and unsure of my direction in life- I was in need of a mental vacation. This feeling could not have come at a better moment, with my trip to visit my parents for the holidays being just around the corner. During this break I was Julia Roberts and ‘home’ was Italy, India and Indonesia. My trip home reflected more on The Eat and Love parts of the story because my mom is as Italian as it gets, so I am lucky to be able to live the Eat part of this story on quite a regular basis. I also get to live the Love part of the story whenever I am around my dad. He is a true inspiration and if I wasn’t lucky enough to have him as a dad, I would pay to have him in my life just to hear his motivational talks. I like to consider my dad as my own personal Dalai Lama- I can always count on him to have an uplifting speech prepared in his back pocket that will get my head back in the right place and my feet back on the ground.
The most recent speech from my dad touched upon patience and how like the tale of the Tortoise and The Hare, sometimes those who get the gold medal in life are those who understand patience, those who understand the road to the finish line is not straight and clear, in fact it is often filled with many obstacles. Living life without any bumps is completely unnatural- think about mother nature herself, everything surrounding her is there because of the bumpy ride it once was on. To understand this metaphor completely, I like to compare the beauty of patience and over coming obstacles to the beauty of a flowing river. What would that river be if it didn’t have to flow down the path that was winding and covered in many rocky obstacles? It would not have any character, it wouldn’t be as beautiful and it would not be natural. Living life perfectly without anything getting in the way isn’t natural, it is the obstacles in your life that sculpt your story and make it completely unique to you. Like the river, if you didn’t have these bumps to go through- you would not be as beautiful.
In life it is way too easy to compare ourselves to everyone surrounding us, and the successes we see them achieving. It can be way too easy to quickly view your life in the big picture of what society says is the proper way to live your life. Go to school, get a job, marry someone and start your family. I believe that in this day and age this is the most unnatural idea of life and living in general. What about all those beautiful obstacles? Living your life in a way that society says is right can often be a race to the finish line. It is okay if you don’t have a dream job, it is okay if you don’t want to start a family. If you break down your journey to a particular moment where life is kinda shitty, don’t feel defeated- keep going and be patient. Later in life when you have come close to your finish line, all of those shitty moments will be seen as the bumps that made your journey beautiful. This is the kind of life that gets you the gold medal in life’s race.
Coat: Vintage Persian Lamb // Headband: White faux fur // Gloves: Etienne Aigner // Watch: Vintage Gucci // Turtleneck: Maison Simons; Icone (similar here) // Jeans: Zara // Boots: Zara (similar here)
Photography: Luu Huy Danh Vo